Have you ever looked outside and said " I can't wait for this rain to let up", or " I can't wait for winter to be overs," and before you know it the calendar say's it's spring and you happen to look outside and realize the grass is green and it happened over night?
As I'm sitting on the couch and started to think about my calendar, I also glanced outside and to my amazement the beautiful sun was out and the grass was green I could also see the flowers in my garden sprout out and start to bloom. I thought "wow it seemed like yesterday everything was dead" I started to reflect on the past days had I been so busy that I didn't notice it was spring, that the grass and buds were starting to come out or did the grass really become green within at least a 2 night period? I know that with nice weather the grass being green, tree'[s and flowers blooming is common. I know that since I was little of course. But it made me realize that my calendar could possibly be holding me back from enjoying life and the quality of it. And not only that because I was unproductively busy, did I truly get anything out of it? During each season whether we like the cold more than the heat or the heat more than the cold, there is a point to it. The hibernation that happens, the growth that comes after. It all means something. The story's, the science, the mother-nature of it all has a reason. Our busy chaotic lives built around the demands of a lot of "supposedly benefits of staying busy" has put our minds into a panic and our schedules, our emotions, and even our physical traits reflect the high intensity agenda's. And what do we get out of the business of meeting others demands? Defeat. ( not always ) Instead of heading into the activity, or storm, the challenge the " new method" with full intentions and our time, we find shortcuts so that we can make sure we meet the demands of another activity on our schedule. In doing so we short ourselves on what could have been the greatest moment of our lives, or the greatest change welcomed into our lives, is now just another to do list. It comes and go's so fast we don't appreciate the story behind it, or the influence it could have had on you or your family. Example. And I'm using my family with my "faults" as the example because guess what? I make a lot of mistakes when it comes to timing things. The other day we decided ( well I decided) to be spontaneous and go on a picnic with my mom and dad. Which means we needed lunch meat, bread and the condiments to go with it, I personally thought we had enough and my husband decided to upgrade the menu a touch. So I ran to the store and told him to eat, and get dressed. I had threw in a cinnamon roll in my mouth with some water and out the door I went. I am the kind of person that is on the go go go.. I mean I have a schedule and I don't like to add to it, because I pack it in with routine and hustle. Where as my husband, well he likes to take his time and make sure things are done right and nothing left undone, he adds in a few things that can make it better. I don't have time to add things in! We gotta go! We have 3 kids and if we want to go on a picnic without a war zone because we didn't eat or leave or drink enough well someone is going to be crabby. When I got home my husband was doing dishes! He wasn't dressed! I quickly started making sandwiches and yelling out the next to do on our list to the kids, consistently telling him to hurry and get ready. I was frustrated, stressed. I hadn't fully eaten, not showered and we were suppose to be meeting my parents. My husband taking his sweet time and not being helpful getting out the door in my opinion. I mean the dishes could have waited! So what's the part about seasons? Although it isn't a full on full season here, I could have done things differently I could have asked the kids to help me and we could have enjoyed making the sandwiches together and they could have finished up while I went and got ready. I was so busy with my go go go that I let the growth of us as a family preparing together pass by me. And that is just a small example of what we do, what the habits we have created as a society in filling up our agendas and letting the season, letting the moment pass us by. Don't let this pass you by, leave me a comment! Share this with a friend that can use some evaluation on their agenda. And don't forget to be in the moment! Your friend Connie xoxo I had no idea what I was steeping into when my husband and I decided that we would be an entrepreneur family, and let alone I would be doing it on my own with three kids and a dog while he worked full time in production at a warehouse. I had no idea what an entrepreneur did, I had no idea the time I needed to put into it, or all the different paths that it would lead me too. I had absolutely no clue! And I'm glad I didn't. If I had known the work, the time, the heartache to the YES finally's that it was going to entail I probably would have ran scared. I wouldn't have known the endless possibilities and rewarding feeling of changing countless lives. I would never have followed through on conferences, and leadership meetings, meeting so many people that have changed their own stories. Being an entrepreneur from " scratch" a rookie has led me to so many crossroads, and pathways that led me to mistakes, success's, and better than all of that the the leadership development and personal development that helped me grow into the person I am today. A proud to be me with all of my scars, bumps and bruises, mother of 3 ( 4 when we include our fur pup Max) and a happily married woman, that was lucky enough to marry her best friend.
That being said.. why did I name my post Defeated Undefeated It's not Possible? Because with my story with my past no one would have guessed I would have ended up here, a blogger, an author, a wife, mother, and speaker. If you knew who I was before and the things that had happened to me most would say I was feeling the weight of defeat. I wasn't undefeated. I was stressed, lost and just unhappy. I was looking for something and hoping to find a spec of light, of hope that there was more to my life than just surviving it. It didn't seem possible. Until it was. This whole website this whole blog is to reach out to all of the women who feel the weight of defeat, like life has just given up on her, or even for our fellow's they can feel defeat too, but I'm here to tell you that I know I know I know the feeling of barley getting up and dusting yourself up to actually doing it. I went from Defeated to living a life I like to call.. Undefeated. And I hope you will find that spec of hope ( at least ) here on this blog! Your's Truly Connie Hurtado xoxo Have you ever felt really overwhelmed, sad, stressed and like you really need to talk to someone, but you just don't because it seems like all of your friends or family that you could talk to have what seems like bigger problems then yours?
I've been there. Many times. And instead of listening to what was wrong in their life and casually mentioning what was up in mine, I just bottled it all up and put on a happy " strong, nothing to worry about" mask on so that I could be there for them. Because that's what good friends and family members do right? Wrong! As much as I want to be there for my friends and family I can't really be there for them if I have a lot going on and I cannot find a release. It's ok to Not be ok, to not have everything together and still be there for them. If anything as long as you all aren't keeping each other down but helping lifting each other up it might help to know that your not perfect! Who said you had to be perfect anyways?! When my husband and I decided that I was going to be a stay at home mom with the kids and run my own business I had a completely different vision in my head on how things would run. I mean I was in a total fantasy world and because I was living up to my so called expectations of what I like to call a " movie star mom" I was always stressed out, mad at myself, and loosing it. I mean I was loosing it. I felt like if my husband was going to go out work 16 hours a day to provide for his family I have to be on the ball. I had 3 kids, and a dog and he worked nights. He always had overtime as well. Being in a warehouse on a production shift you stay to the job got done and that was that. It was like being a single parent, and trying to study, start and run a business with 3 kids and little kids was not a movie star movie scene. I couldn't figure out how they did it. Well duh!! Because they aren't in " real time" They aren't even real people! They're actors with the scenes already cleaned up for them! But at the time I didn't get that. I related those "movie star mom's" to all the entrepreneur's that were already making it and making it look like they lived the " movie star mom" scene. And guess what? I wasn't there like a true friend would be, or a sister would have been, or a daughter would have been. I was wrapped around being perfect and the image of looking perfect so that no one new that I wasn't ok. So no one knew that I was loosing it, and stressed, and started to think I was incapable of accomplishing anything. Isn't that what a lot of us do now? The images we want others to see because we don't want others to know that our agendas, our house, our emotional state isn't ok.. Well that my friends is not ok. But what is ok is to not be ok and to talk about it. To embrace it. To know where you are at and the level you are at. To love all the messy, chaotic parts of you and your life and be free to be you. It's ok to listen to your friends and your family about their problems be there for them and still mention that your struggling with somethings too, EVEN if it seems dramatically small "if" you compare your problems to theirs. Which you shouldn't by the way. An issue, a challenge can be emotionally defeating if we let it no matter how big or how small. But once you realize where you are at and the weight of the problem, you can conquer it and you can be undefeated. Embrace the " I'm not ok" scene. It will help you to move forward and conquer it. If I could give you a hug I would, but I can't so instead i'm leaving you with this blog post in hopes that it will bring you some level of comfort knowing that your not alone. And if it has well then great!! Let me know! And please share this with another person that can use some comfort or give me a like. Till next time, Connie Hugs!! xoXo |
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